So far we’ve talked a lot about different ways to boost our self-confidence and how to feel better about ourselves. While that’s certainly important, there will be bad days and there will be times when we suffer setbacks. No one is confident and courageous every single day of their life. No matter how much self-confidence you possess, there will be days where you’re feeling low and there will be times when your feeling of self-worth is tested. It is part of life and it’s ok. Let’s take a look at why it’s ok and how to work through these bad days and setbacks that are part of life for all of us.
Without The Dark We Wouldn’t Notice The Light
I know it sounds cliché, but without the dark, we wouldn’t really appreciate the light. We need some bad times and setbacks in our lives because they make us appreciate the good times even more than before. Let’s use day and night as a metaphor and example. If it didn’t get dark, and you didn’t have to make it through the long, cold night, you wouldn’t appreciate the beautiful sunrise in the morning, or how those mid-day rays of sunshine warm your skin.
The same holds true for the tough times. They make it seem that much sweeter when we are confident and proud of what we’re accomplishing. We gain a lot of strength and confidence when we make it through a tough day or week. Pay attention as you work your way through it and notice those first few signs of “light”. Take pride in them and appreciate them. They are signs that things are about to turn around for you. Take the time to enjoy and really appreciate the good days.
Working Your Way Back To Confidence
Of course the first step is to work your way back to your confident and courageous self. Take baby steps, but force yourself to do something, no matter how small, to improve your self-confidence. Use the tools, strategies, and hacks I’ve shared with you already and will continue to share with you throughout the remainder of this challenge to make that happen.
Yesterday we talked about journaling and how a simple journal can be used as a self-confidence tool. When you’re going through a tough time, grab that journal. Use the writing as a way to work through what’s happening. Read back through older entries and see for yourself how much you’ve accomplished and what you’re already capable of. Then make a plan, set some goals, jot down a list and start checking things off… take action, take pride in your actions, and take back your self-confidence and courage.